this is for couples that are engaged, especially the ones with a “-zilla” attached to their title. it is the true story of a couple whose wedding day was perfectly imperfect.
they met in a bar on an island far from home and quickly discovered they were both originally from the same city. she was traveling with friends. he was living on the island with a girlfriend at the time. for them to be a couple he would have to end his current relationship, she would have to fend off the advances of every man that saw her, and then they would have to re-connect over a year later when he was able to move back home from the island.
check, check, and check.
he loved this beautiful girl so much that one day he picked her up as she was clocking out from a long day at work and he drove her straight to his secret spot. he had a plan. she wouldn’t have a chance to shower, put on makeup, or change into something a little less “business-casual.” he wanted her to know that he would always love her, no matter what she looked like, dressed like, or smelled like. in this simple place overlooking the city they call home, in front of strangers and the pacific ocean, he dropped to his knee and asked her to marry him.
she said yes.
they were young, broke, and had no clue about how to plan a wedding. the one thing they did have was each other. they knew with that everything else would fall into place.
on paper, it looks like it was a disaster.
he lost his job about a month before the wedding so the groom sold his car, atv’s, and just about everything else he owned that was worth more than a can of beets to help pay for the wedding. she continued working hard to pay the bills and keep a roof over their heads. there was more than one night when dinner consisted of that can of beets, a can of cream corn, or a few vienna sausages.
as the wedding day approached, one of the bridesmaids had to back out due to a pregnancy. another bridesmaid got food poisoning the morning of the wedding. the maid of honor didn’t like the bride’s choice of wedding dress so she decided not to do a bachelorette party for the bride. when the wedding day came she chose not to speak with the bride the whole day (and every day that followed for the next 4 years).
from the moment they awoke on their wedding day, they were reminded by a higher power that this day was about the two of them being together, and nothing else. with no girls to help her, the bride-to-be turned to her mother for help.
first stop was a hair and makeup appointment. first stop was disastrous. in fact, the trip over to the first stop was disastrous. the bride’s mother became upset when another driver nearly caused her to crash. when she reached the salon she dropped the bride off and left her there without a car. the groom and his friend had to drive another car over and drop it off for the bride. meanwhile, inside the salon, the bride was getting the full wedding treatment. she has a natural beauty and never wears much makeup, so she requested a clean, simple look with minimal makeup. she came out, in her opinion, looking like a painted lady from the 80’s. the stylist dismissed the bride’s requests and did what she thought would look good instead. the hairstyle she did was not at all what the bride had in mind, but it was too late to change it. the bride was way beyond upset when she left. as she sat in her car looking in her mirror she hesitated to turn the key. her happiness was worth way more than the $180 given to the stylist. right there, in the salon parking lot, she wiped off all the makeup that had just been applied and started over from scratch by herself.
everything that had gone wrong leading up to this point was like scattered showers, the storm was yet to come. the couple already had every reason to be anxious, frustrated, and even angry, but here’s a little bit of how the rest of the wedding day went.
the air conditioning was broken in the hotel room where the bride was getting ready. since there were no bridesmaids available, a (male) friend that went through training in the navy with the groom stepped up and helped the bride finish getting dressed. the father of the bride and her uncle got lost on their way to the ceremony site. the ceremony was outside on a lawn overlooking the ocean. nothing wrong with that, but 10 minutes before the ceremony was scheduled to start there were no chairs for the guests. the groom had to call the chair supplier and quickly get someone there to help set up. the wind was blowing so hard that it knocked over all the flower arrangements at the ceremony. there was no way to anchor them down, so 2 of the groom’s younger cousins had to stand next to the arrangements, through the whole ceremony, to hold them in place. since they didn’t have much money, the bride was unable to get the bouquet that she really loved. the flower girl tripped as she was walking down the aisle, then ran over and stood on the groom’s side. the balloons that were set up in the reception were the wrong colors. it looked more like a baby shower than a wedding. the linens were not the color the couple had chosen. there were no chair covers and the chairs were mis-matched. one of the wedding favors was supposed to be a small bag full of mints, but each bag contained only 3 mints. the d.j. scored a hat trick. he showed up to the reception wearing a vest with birthday balloons on it, announced the couple during their grand entrance by the wrong name, and he played numerous songs the bride and groom specifically requested him not to play. the groom’s grandparents didn’t like the mexican food buffet dinner so they left as soon as it was served. the photographer chose to put the couple out in the wind so in most of their portraits the groom’s hair is standing straight up. there were numerous wedding crashers, one of which was interviewed by the videographer unknowingly. his interview was included on the couple’s wedding video. a bottle of dom perignon that the couple was going to do their toasts with was stolen. some of the guests became intoxicated and began pouring drinks on the groom, completely soaking his tuxedo with beer, wine, and mixed drinks. other guests took whipped cream cans from the hot chocolate station and began spraying other guests in the face with them. some guests were partially disrobed and dancing on tables.
and to top it all off…
it was the greatest day of our lives.
yes, the couple was kim and i. we could have let all those things stress us out or ruin our wedding, but we didn’t. our wedding day was a celebration of our love, not tiny details or differences of opinion. when our reception ended at midnight we invited everyone that was drunk or that still wanted to hang out back to our hotel room. as they headed to our room, we stayed behind to clean up the huge mess. (we needed that security deposit back.) by the time we made it to our hotel room one of our drunk friends had broken a lamp in the room, sprayed champagne all over the ceiling, and tossed the ice bucket into the pool 8 stories below. we forfeited all sleep that night as we watched over our friends to make sure they were ok, cleaned their second mess, and finally headed to the airport for our 6am flight to hawaii. oh, and when we watched our wedding video we found out who swiped our bottle of dom. our groomsmen still owe us one.
in the end, we have an awesome story to tell. even with all the things that went wrong, kim and i still got married. our families, our crazy friends, and even a few strangers were in the same place, at the same time, with us. kim and i just celebrated another anniversary last month and to this day we both say that we’d get married again just to get everyone back together. it’s the relationships in our lives that matter most, not the color of balloons, not linens that don’t match, not some random guy getting on our wedding video. good or bad, we look at everything as a story to tell. life would be pretty boring if there were no challenges. even if you don’t think something’s funny when it’s going down, you will laugh about it in time. i once heard that tragedy plus time equals comedy. that formula definitely applies to our wedding, and many others that i’ve been to.
so, brides and grooms out there, the moral to this story is…
don’t sweat the small stuff. don’t let some stupid little detail stress you out or ruin your day. none of your guests care if your makeup makes you look like a raccoon or if your tuxedo pants are 3 sizes too short. roll with it. pretend you’re huck finn and his little furry friend. whatever you do, enjoy it for what it is…
your wedding day.
check my sweet hair.
if you can’t have fun on your wedding day, when will you?
who needs a limo when you can rent a green chrysler sebring? i got game.
since we weren’t too stoked on the windblown faux hawk look, kim and i got suited up again after we got home from our honeymoon in hawaii and talked our photographer into doing a trash the dress session before they were called trash the dress sessions. we also did some portraits of me in my tux, sans wind. and yes, my wingtips are steel toe.
stand aside ben folds. i am the luckiest.
this is where the whip cream landed in our faces! (if you don’t see 2 videos below you can click these links to watch the awesomeness – video one – video two )
these awesome 1990s video effects get harder to watch with every passing year.
happy anniversary kim! when i sat down to write this the first word that came to mind was love. it is the word that makes me think of you. it is the feeling i have when i hold your hand. it is what’s in my heart whenever you are close. i love you kim. even though i drive you nuts sometimes, i’m so thankful we get to share every day together. you are my lobster, my best friend, my love.
thank you for visiting our wedding photography blog
check out our portfolio.
contact us by phone at 858.663.3283 or email email@example.com
ohana photographers | ohana photographers blog | hawaii wedding photography | orange county wedding photography | los angeles wedding photography | wedding photographers | hawaii family photographer | orange county family photographer | los angeles family photographer
You guys are the cutest!!
Love this post! The story, the awesome words of advice, and of course, the priceless photos! You both look fabulous!
I think you make great points.. In the end, all that matters is that you are two people in love. I LOVE seeing your wedding pictures and videos.. You guys are hotties! :)
Ok this post made me laugh made me cry and made me testify AMEN!! I just love everything about it and you have carried the “dont sweat the small stuff” through into your lives today. There have been so many instances I have followed your tweets and facebook postings where you could be pissed at the world and complaining up a storm but you dont. Both of you are amazing. I hope I get the chance to share drinks with you one of these days when Im in SD :) xoxo
Hey David! :-) You are one of my Facebook friends. I LOVED reading all of your wedding story above and you both looked fabulous in your pictures! Wow, that’s the craziest wedding day I’ve heard of but you both definitely look very happy, more happy than any couple I’ve seen! Keep enjoying and savoring your love for each other! :-)
I wanted to cry just reading that story…and was so touched when I read it was about you two. You are a true testament about what the wedding day is actually about – your marriage, each other, your love.
I had a less-than-perfect wedding too… I mean it was beautiful and full of so much love – just just between my groom and me, but my family, my friends – everyone. But leading up to the big day – everything went wrong! But it did remind my husband and I what our special day is really about… Thanks for this awesome post and congrats on your anniversary!
Totally cried. You’re both brilliant and gorgeous and I love the love you can TELL you share. It’s mesmerizing…and in every picture. Perfect.
I agree 1 million % to what Kathleen said. Seriously no need to stress on your wedding day, if this day stresses you out, you have bigger problems. Great post!
Love you guys so much. I read the entire thing word for word and was sad when it ended. Can’t wait to hug you both soon :) xoxoxo
Oh MAN, what a great story!! I was alternately horrified, delighted, furious and laughing as I read it. A beautiful love story with an unexpected chapter 1….I love it. :) you guys rock.
“if you can’t have fun on your wedding day, when will you?” Well put. Life is too short to be a beotch. Listen up Zillas and chill!
You two are babies!! I loved this whole post! Very well written and most definitely true. You guys know how to party that’s evident! Are you taking applications for best friends?
Just came across this through Brianna, thank you girl! Laughed so hard had tears streaming down the sides of my face! Impossible to vote, they’re all classic.
I really really REALLY needed to read this today! Really!!! Laughed so hard I nearly burst an intestine! You should consider making your story into a screenplay, but who would you cast as the leads?
yall had way to much fun! wait you can never have to much fun! this is awesome!
Freaking BEAUTIFUL! I love this post, a lot!
Freaking BEAUTIFUL! I love this post, a lot!
Freaking BEAUTIFUL. I love this post. Happy Anniversary.
Love this post! Such a crazy story! It says a lot that even with all that went wrong that day you chose to focus on what’s most important. You two are so great together. :-) Congrats on another amazing anniversary!
So, your perfectly imperfect wedding even includes some spot color photos … niiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiice!! None of it makes any difference though – you guys are a match made in heaven and Paul & I are very fortunate to call you both our friends. :)
OMG I loooove you both! What an inspirational story. Thanks for sharing and happy anniversary!
Ohhh my Gosh .. Happy Belated Anniversary.. and it looks like you guys had an awesome wedding inspite of all the set backs.. way to go.
Love the story. What else could have gone wrong?? But through everything you still have and love each other. What a beautiful story. Congrats guys and many more years together!!
Such a great story, beautiful wedding! and loved reading it even after you told us about it yourselves =) Love you guys! Happy Anniversary!
AGREE ONE BAGILLION PERCENT! Very well written and so true! Who hates bridezilla’s!? ME ME ME! I had a friend, and I was a bridesmaid at her wedding and, well let’s just say she made the day the worst day ever for her, her husband and the whole shebang. Surprise, they’re not together anymore. So not worth it. On a happier note, can I just say I love you guys. You look like so much fun! No wonder your clients pictures exude such fun and love in them!
Thank you for taking the kind of pictures that will make the memory of my daughter’s wedding last forever. From the engagement to the last dance you captured their love, sprit and joy that they have for each other and for life. If you are ever in Albuquerque please contact me, I owe you all a big hug.
May the light of peace and love shine on OHANA forever. God bless.
Heart you guys. The end.
[…] This post was mentioned on Twitter by Kathryn Storke, david baxter. david baxter said: @snippetandink @BriannaPhelan http://ohanaphotographers.com/blog/san_diego_wedding_photographer_100615/ …and this is what happened. :) […]
You guys look like the funnest bride and groom ever! Happy Anniversary to you both!
oh my. this is the sweetest post ever! i can’t help but adore you guys whenever i read some of your posts but this tops all cakes. happy happy happy anniversary!
Those video snippets are epic and so much fun!
[…] who know us (or have been following our blog long enough) know that kim and i celebrated another anniversary on may 18th. i’m banking on the iMac i got kim to distract her enough that she doesn’t realize this […]
[…] see now. i’ve already told you the story of how kim and i met (in a bar in hawaii), and how perfectly imperfect our wedding day was, so what should i talk about this year? ooh, i know. i’ll talk about kim. yah, she’s […]
[…] seeing our anniversary post, amy and ruben borrowed a page from our little book of how to have fun at your wedding, by having […]
[…] not a party until someone loses a shirt. ( see our wedding […]
OMG. Best Wedding EVER! Wow, you guys look like a lot of fun and clearly fun was all to be had on your day. Perfect words about how to be on your wedding day!
NOW THIS IS A WEDDING RECEPTION!
[…] if anyone wants to know the story of how kim and i met or the tale of how imperfectly perfect our wedding was just click those […]
exactly! love this post!
Great post about what’s really important on your day! Happy Anniversary!
Your reception looked crazy fun! Your words could not ring more true! Well written!
Wow! I admit I was a huge bridezilla. I wish I had read this in the stages of planning our wedding. I sadly can’t promise I would of taken it to heart, but maybe I would have. The memory of my day would be much happier. Beautiful story wonderfully written. Happy Anniversary to you both! You look like a fun and happy couple!
Love this! Thanks for sharing your day!
[…] hope everyone looking at these photos can feel the love and happiness that we witnessed that day. A wedding is always about the union of a couple, but Meagan and Taylor made theirs bigger somehow. Every person there, whether they were a […]